"You needed solutions, so I wrote a how-to/self-help book and developed this website as well," Dr. Diane England explains.
Is Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder or PTSD harming your relationship? Have you tried to be supportive of your partner, but you're finding this to be increasingly difficult? In fact, are you experiencing feelings of hurt, if not outright anger, because your partner seems hesitant to be intimate or refuses to engage in activities you once enjoyed together?
If you can relate to what I've just said, you've come to the right place. See, I'm Dr. Diane England, the author of an award-winning how-to/self-help book that I wrote especially for you, the partner of the PTSD sufferer. It will help you to make sense of your changed relationship, plus it gives you ideas for how to support your partner while keeping your relationship healthy so that it works for the two of you, not just for your partner with PTSD.
You're also going to find some helpful articles as well as links to useful resources at this site. (I just haven't posted a bunch of links. I explain why that organization or program might prove beneficial to you and/or your PtSD-impacted partner.) I encourage you to review them all. However, I'm also going to encourage you to purchase my book since I wrote it to help people like you. And frankly, since I know it has been used successfully by psychoeducational support groups for couples in "PTSD relationships" here in the United States as well as in Canada, Australia, and England, I truly believe you'll find it beneficial. Sure, not all of it might be applicable to you and your relationship. But if you're truly desirous of working on things with your partner, I suspect at least some of the suggestions, once faithfully implemented, will indeed make a difference.
By the way, this book and what I've written or posted here at this website should help no matter what the cause of the sufferer's PTSD. I realize some have said I appear to write more for couples where at least one of them is a warrior wounded by PTSD. Let me just say in response that when i wrote this book in 2008 (it came out on 2009), I was especially concerned about this potential group of PTSD sufferers. but see, I'd worked with the military as a contracted clinical social worker in the mental health clinic at a NATO base in northern Italy. While only a limited number of military members from our base were sent to Afghanistan or Iraq, many of those headed for Iraq--or returning from there--were on planes that stopped at our base. I couldn't help but be concerned about this group of young men and women whose faces I'd seen as they spent a few hours in our presence. Well, and then I was alive during the Vietnam War. I didn't want to see what had happened to those veterans happen to our current warriors wounded by PTSD, either. I realized this could happen. though, if couples impacted by PTSD didn't have the information they needed to advocate for themselves.
That all said, let me again stress that what I wrote in The Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder Relationship: How to Support Your Partner and Keep Your Relationship Healthy, should prove helpful no matter what the source of the sufferer's PTSD. And yes, this how-to/self-help book was designated as one of the “BEST BOOKS OF 2009" (published by Adams Media, now a Simon and Schuster imprint) by the Library Journal. Of course, I hope this helps you to feel confidant that this book could prove helpful to you.
Still not convinced? Well, you can certainly read below not only what the Library Journal had to say about this "PTSD Relationship" book in their July 15, 2009 review, but you'll find other reviews as well. Furthermore, on the next page of this website, I tell you a tad more about my book. So, why not check it out, too?
Here's What the Library Journal had to Say
For five years, psychotherapist England worked with military families at a NATO base. Drawing on those experiences, she compassionately helps couples cope with post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). Whether the PTSD patient suffered trauma during military warfare, physical or sexual abuse, or natural disasters, the partner is affected and needs to learn how to interact with the afflicted partner. Timely and well done; essential in communities with returning Iraq and Afghanistan vets.
(The Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder Relationship: How to Support Your Partner and Keep Your Relationship Healthy is part of the National Center for PTSD Online Database of PTSD Literature.)
What Both Civilian and Military Experts Said about this Book
"The Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder Relationship is truly the toolbox the partner of a PTSD sufferer needs if he or she wants to help save the partner, their relationship, and their children from the potentially devastating consequences of this disorder.”
Jesse J. Harris PhD, Colonel, U.S Army Retired, Former Social Work Consultant for the Army Surgeon General; Professor and Dean Emeritus, School of Social Work, University of Maryland, Baltimore; and Recipient of National Association of Social workers Lifetime Achievement Award
"This is a book overflowing with information, sound advice, and exercises to help you turn what might seem like a tragedy into a springboard for personal and relationship growth."
Rene´ J. Robichaux, PhD, LCSW, Colonel, US Army Retired, Former Social Work Officer and Chief, Behavioral Health Division, US Army Medical Command
“My clients often say,'We've been through this. Things get better for a week or a month, but then we're right back to where we started.' Many self-help books provide a feel good experience by giving a quick infusion of empathy. Yes, it's very important to feel that you are not alone. However, this book goes far beyond this, providing tools for lasting change.”
Carl G. Hindy, PhD, Clinical Psychologist, Nashua, NH. Co-author of "If This Is Love, Why Do I Feel So Insecure?"
“Full of sound information as well as useful case studies and exercises, this book is going to be a welcome road map for the partner who wants to support a loved one with PTSD—a must read.”
Colonel Robert I. Miller, MD, Commander of Malcolm Grow Medical Center, Andrews Air Force Base, Maryland
“I wish I’d had this book as a resource when I began working solely with America's combat veterans at the Denver VA Medical Center. This book provides a comprehensive and insightful description of the challenges that PTSD inflicts on the sufferer, the partner/spouse, their children, family and friends. It is a must read for clinicians (particularly in the Department of Defense and the Department of Veterans Affairs), those wounded by PTSD and those in their circle of life. It not only leads to a thorough understanding of PTSD but offers direction for healing for all concerned.”
Calvin Neptune, PhD, LCSW, Colonel, US Army Retired, Former Social Work Consultant, Office of the Army Surgeon General, US Army. Also recently retired clinical social worker with the PTSD Residential Rehabilitation Program, Denver VA Medical Center
“Dr. Diane England has written a comprehensive book that will answer all of the questions that arise when in a relationship with someone affected by PTSD.”
David Riklan, Founder of SelfGrowth.com, the # 1 Self Improvement Website on the Internet
“Dr Diane England has performed an invaluable service for so many by writing this superb, comprehensive guide to relationships where PTSD is present. She has developed a unique pragmatic systems approach, thus making this a practical “how to” guide that will promote human welfare for many as well as contribute to the literature on PTSD. Well done, Dr, England!”
Ernest J Lenz, PhD, MPH, Colonel, US Army, Retired, Former Psychology Consultant, US Army, Europe
“The Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder Relationship should be required reading for everyone who knows someone affected by PTSD. It is a treasure chest of tools that can be used for life to help oneself, their partner and their children understand and deal with the devastating consequences of PTSD.”
Richard Miller, PhD, Clinical Psychologist and developer of Integrative Restoration (iRest), a program designed to help people develop resiliency to, as well as heal through, PTSD and its related symptoms—currently being used in VA facilities, hospitals, homeless shelters, prisons and clinical settings
“The Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder Relationship is destined to provide extraordinary service to couples who have suffered in silence from this devastating disorder. Now, with Dr. Diane England’s help, couples can fully understand the nature of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, how it affects their relationship, and what to do about it. Relationships are challenging anyway, and these relationships are even more so. Fortunately, this book shows that you don't have to personalize what is happening but instead, can step back and take action to improve your relationship and life together. Therefore, if you love someone with PTSD, get this book and begin following its advice today! If you treat people with Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, I recommend this book as part of their treatment plan.”
Nina Atwood, M.Ed., LPC, author of four self-help books, including "Soul Talk: Powerful Positive Communication for a Loving Partnership,” and her latest, “Temptations of the Single Girl: Ten Dating Traps You Must Avoid”
“A MUST READ book for behavioral health professionals, as well as anyone who has. or might have, a partner who is suffering with PTSD. This very well written book offers vital help and hope to deal with PTSD in relationships—in a most realistic, practical, clear and immediately applicable manner.”
Gregory C. Meyer, DSw, Colonel, US Army Retired, Former Social Work Consultant, HQ 7th Medical Command, US Army, Europe
PsychCentral, a high-ranked website developed and owned by a psychologist in Canada, has posted their own extensive review. Read it here:
Psych Central's Review of The Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder Relationship